We all are human beings capable of communicating with each other. Some are good at it while some are not. The ones who are good at it get along with anyone easily and the ones who are not that good attract misunderstanding. We will see how we fall into misunderstanding.
As I have observed, the ones who are not good at communicating think a lot. They are more concerned about how they are being perceived than how they are being. It is fine given they, as someone who finds it hard to understand people, are trying to understand other people but other people, given how normally they get along with others, find it awkward to have someone trying to understand them, that’s why they are rude to people who are not good at communicating.
I’ll talk about this instance that happened today as I was out with a friend of mine. What happened was that a guy was eating all by himself in a restaurant who was only focusing on his food as if there was nothing else around him. Then he looked up and started to look around as if he was trying to understand the ambience of the restaurant. I was sitting in an angle that made me look at the guy and this other guy sitting on the other side. I was talking to my friend but they kept catching my eye. The guy I talked about, the one who was there alone, when he looked around the other guy caught him too but he got angry that he was looking at him again and again. I thought maybe the guy who was alone had problem communicating, and he was just taking a look around to understand his surroundings; no big deal. However, the other guy got up and told the guy to stop looking at them. He said he was uncomfortable by his gaze. The guy didn’t respond and looked down. The other guy stood there for a sec looking angry then he went back to his seat. After that the guy ate his food quietly without raising his head. I overlooked the situation and got busy with my friend. But later I got into thinking how we misunderstand each other when we do not communicate well. Here, the guy who was alone could have said that he was not gazing or didn’t mean to make the guy uncomfortable, that he was just looking around and the other guy could have asked politely whether there was a problem or not and tried to understand what his deal was, but no, nothing like that happened. The guy who was alone couldn’t put words into his mouth and the other guy put assumptions into his thought. This kind of miscommunication led to a bitter environment that only I could sense. I didn’t talk about it then because prolly I was feeling guilty about having been in such situations and misunderstanding or miscommunication or misinterpreting stuff.
But at the end of the day its OKAY!!! We are not alone in this. We have all been there. What really matters is how you deal with it later, whether you realise your mistake and apologise for it or not, because at the end we are all riding in the same boat.